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Have I ever told you about the time I was flying a helicopter over the city?  It took me six attempts, but eventually I was able to time a perfect jump and land on a sky-scraper!  You can imagine the thrill that gave me!  You might think I\u2019m making it up, but I\u2019ve done some pretty incredible things.  Problem is, this was a different reality\u2026\u2028<\/p>\n\n\n

The Hidden Dangers of Escapism<\/h2>\n\n\n

Escapism.  It happens when we aren\u2019t willing to face reality.  It happens when the reality we find ourselves in is not desirable, so we forget about the real world by escaping to a place where we don\u2019t have to address our problems.  We might escape into video games that allow us to do whatever we want, or into movies that portray \u201ctrue love\u201d as we like to fantasize it, or into social media where we can pretend to be someone we\u2019re not, or into addictive substances that numb our brains and allow us to forget about our reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Escapism is one of the biggest issues for students today, but the truth is that escaping reality will only make your reality worse.  Let\u2019s take a look at why that is\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Escaping reality stops you from accomplishing real things<\/strong>.  We trick ourselves into accomplishing things that are unimportant, while neglecting what really needs to be accomplished.  Eventually we realise that what we have truly accomplished amounts to not much!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Reality doesn\u2019t wait for you<\/strong>.  Escaping into a fantasy world, or a different reality, means you get left behind in the real world.  You will still have to confront whatever you are trying to escape from in real life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Your view of reality gets twisted<\/strong>.  Whatever you choose to do to escape will eventually twist your view of reality.  In the end you will feel like you can no longer handle your real life issues, and you won\u2019t understand why things aren\u2019t going your way.  <\/p>\n\n\n

Overcoming the Urge to Escape<\/h2>\n\n\n

So while escapism is a big issue, the good news is that we can overcome our desire to escape reality! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some ways we can do this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Create a compelling vision for your life<\/strong>.  Like the North Star, a compelling vision will help you navigate through the distractions of life, stay focused, and call the best out of you.  Perhaps you have heard the quote from Antoine de Saint-Exupery:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you want to build a ship, don\u2019t drum up people to collect wood and don\u2019t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have you discovered what your North Star is?  Can you articulate it?  Try writing down a compelling vision to take you beyond escapist dreaming.  <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Discover the value of time<\/strong>.  If you take time to talk to people nearing the end of their life about their regrets, what you will often hear people describe are regrets about the things they didn\u2019t do rather than regrets about the things they did do: \u201cI would have tried more things\u201d, \u201cI would have spent more time with my family\u201d, \u201cI would have explored the world more.\u201d  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Psalmist wisely said, \u201cSo teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.\u201d (Psalm 90:12 ESV).  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we learn the value of time, we will make better decisions with how we spend it!  My advice: pick a priority for each week.  You won\u2019t always accomplish it, but the habit of figuring out what is important each week will help you to \u2018number your days\u2019. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Match your worldview to reality<\/strong>.  Having a robust worldview is an invaluable tool in the toolbox of life.  It gives you resources to deal with the ups and downs that you will experience through life.  The more your world view maps to reality, the more harmony you will experience in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To construct a great worldview you need to answer questions such as: where am I from?  Where am I going?  Why am I here?  What are the rules for life?  I have discovered that a relationship with Jesus offers us compelling vision for life, enables us to discover the value of time and to outline a robust worldview, enabling us to reject escapism as a means of coping with life.  Check out some of the resources on this website to learn more about how a relationship with God works!  This is a great place to start!<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Written by Michael J<\/em>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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